April 22 2017
It was shortly after midnight when the night nurse walked in and introduced herself. “How are you doing?”
I grunted ” This just sucks!”.
She laughed, ” Yes it does !”
I thought she must not of heard me because she certainly wasn’t being very compassionate.” 😊 I repeated ” THIS JUST SUCKS!”
She laughed “Yes, it does!”
Me:”Well thanks for agreeing with me!”
Then we both started laughing! After that she started to tell about others she had seen moving quickly through the tough physical rehab and getting on with their lives after a traumatic car accident.
Sometimes before we start spewing Bible verses OR earthly or Godly wisdom we need to just connect with the person that is hurting. We need to momentarily connect with their fear, pain, hopelessness, depression, or anger. Doing that isn’t giving into the devil.
She wasn’t another person that wanted to rush in with a peptalk on how it wasn’t so bad and make light of my feelings. . I would be confined to a wheel chair for the next couple of months. She just got on my level and momentarily agreed with me.
Today, Pastor Aaron stopped by and let me get all of those emotions out, before he started giving me some solutions on moving forward.
Rick and Nancy stopped by and held my hand as I cried about my situation so I could get it out of my system.
We all are in such a big hurry to get people moving on with their healing that we bypass that part of them that needs to see the reality of how THEY FEEL about their situation so that they can see that God is so much greater and can and WILL bring a much better outcome. That He will supply all the energy and resources needed during their journey.
It’s funny that when we are in pain , someone most surely will tell you that you shouldn’t be. Specially if you’re Christian. We want to argue. This is my pain! Can’t you see I’m in pain? Don’t tell me I don’t have it!
Sad, but as humans that’s how we automatically react.
Anyway for those of you who have family or friends who are going through things right now, no matter where they are in it, momentarily connect and agree with them. When you do, you’ll see the switch and then you can start to offer solutions and options.
I feel like somebody needs to read this today. Like they’ve been fighting with someone to see the good side of their problem and they’re forgetting there’s a person with feelings attached to it.
Have a great Saturday peeps!