By-eeeee

Many years ago, my very wise older sister Kathy stopped me cold mid-rant and said, “Do you need permission? “

What? “

“Do you need permission not to involve yourself with this person anymore? I permit you to stop subjecting yourself to this person’s abuse. I give your permission to end the friendship.”

I was dumbfounded at first and then relieved! I ended my relationship that day and said goodbye to the drama. I just needed someone to say that it was okay to do so because I couldn’t help myself. Ever feel like that?

Why is it that sometimes we hang on to old stuff, new stuff, or even someone else’s stuff that isn’t working for us? Why do we feel we have to continue to struggle to make things work? Or to fix things? Especially with people who are crazy-making companions at best? Sometimes it takes too much energy to pretend someone’s behavior is, well…normal. So why do we do it? Because there is something inside us that wants to complete something that we started. Cross the T’s. Dot the i’s. Finish off the chips. Make sense of it all.

Sometimes it is good to finish everything we started, and sometimes it is just plain wrong. Can anyone hear me out there about this? God isn’t expecting us to fix anyone or any situation. Only He can do that. You aren’t a failure if you can’t or don’t want to hang in there to see something through that was never your burden to bear in the first place. Sometimes it starts out good, and we don’t see the crazy card until we are well into the game. Or sometimes we have shared too much of our secrets or given up too much of ourselves to another person and dread what would happen if all of this ended. Abruptly. What would we lose? Or what would be exposed? So we hang on to something that should have been cut off years ago, worrying about our reputations and our other 6 degrees of separation and hang on to madness to protect ourselves.

But if you can’t fix something, you also can’t protect yourself if someone decides to GO there for whatever reason. I have people who still talk about me from years ago. Now, I call it free publicity.

Don’t worry. I give you all permission today to stop anything that isn’t working for you. I promise you God will pick up the pieces and make wrong out of right. If He is for you anyone who is against you will not win in the end!

Life here on earth is way too short to throw pearls before swine. Give it up and give it to God. Tell the person you are taking a break and giving it a rest. An indefinite pause. Time to let go of the lies, abuse, and negativity. Time to let go of someone or something that is holding you up or holding you back.

Time to break the news. Even if that person you are breaking it to is yourself.

No Weapons

“Isaiah 54:17” No weapon formed against you will prosper. 

God’s word says that no weapon formed against you will prosper. 

He did not say that there would not be any weapons created. He said it….or they…… would not win, flourish or triumph). Read it again. 

I used to know someone who constantly said, “Give thanks to the Lord in good times and in bad. Especially in the bad times.”

I actually had a hard time with that. Why would I be thanking God when things were going wrong? Wouldn’t that mean that God brought it on for some reason? For some higher good? Thank you Sir, may I have another?! 

I’m Big Sky Daddy’s kid! Why couldn’t things always just go right? 

We can easily forget that we have the authority to take hold of the crap storm before it starts. Often, we get a little whisper that tells us before the clouds even begin to form. Nah! I’m just being paranoid. That couldn’t possibly happen. Nope. Maybe it’s your spirit giving you a heads up about that weapon starting to be assembled. You can learn to be calm in the eye of the storm, but don’t you have better things to do? Like, spend those Kohl’s dollars? 

Years ago, I recalled getting this feeling that I was secretly being listened to at work. At first, it felt like paranoia, but I knew it was true in my heart. One of my managers started repeating to me, verbatim, things my coworkers or I had said in conversations in my office. How did he know what was said? Or what I did last weekend? Then I started to have dreams about hidden mics and searched everything in my office numerous times and found nothing. Then one day, as I was walking by an empty office next to mine, the Holy Spirit said “it’s in there, behind the picture that hangs on the wall that is directly behind you.” I walked in and lifted the frame, and there was a wireless lavaliere mic attached to the wire that it hung on. I was shocked, to say the least. Someone walked past and asked me what I was doing, and I returned to my office. 15 minutes later, after most had gone to lunch, I went back into the empty office, and the mic had been removed. Hmmm. How many people were in on it?

Pay attention to what you are feeling in your heart. Maybe it’s true. Perhaps you aren’t crazy or had too much coffee. Maybe you can stop or get ahead of the storm before it builds up pressure. Or play those clouds to your advantage. But no worries if you totally miss it. God can still bring out the sun and create rainbows regardless of whether you get caught in the downpour.

Isaiah 54:17 Amplified 

“No weapon that is formed against you will succeed;

And every tongue that rises against you in judgment you will condemn.

This [peace, righteousness, security, and triumph over opposition] is the heritage of the servants of the Lord,

And this is their vindication from Me,” says the Lord.